Connecting Hearts Network for Domestic Violence Awareness with Holly Reese and Margie Cownay

October is Domestic Violence Awareness month  and that is a purpose Holly Reese and Margie Conway have dedicated their time too. This episode is focuses helping others find support and their way out of domestic violence situations. How can you help someone in a domestic violemce situation? Here are some tips. 

If someone you know is in an abusive relationship, here’s how to help:

Do:

• Approach the person at a time and place that is safe and confidential.
• Start by expressing concern, such as, I am worried about your safety, I am concerned someone is hurting you.
• Take the time to listen and believe what they say.
• Communicate that you care about their safety, that they do not deserve to be hurt, and that the abuse is not their fault.
• Tell them they are not crazy. A person who has been abused often feels upset, depressed, confused, and scared. Let them know that these are normal feelings.
• Tell them good things about themselves. Let them know you think they are smart, strong, and brave. Their abuser may be tearing down their self-esteem.
• Respect their choices.
• Encourage them to build a wide support system. Help find a support group or encourage them to talk with friends and family.
• Be patient. Self-empowerment may take longer than you want. Go at their pace, not yours.
• Consider calling CFPA to learn more about the kinds of help available, to ask questions specific to the situation, and to learn how you can be an effective and supportive ally.

Do Not:

• Do not accuse, diagnose, or judge their choices; do not draw conclusions about what they may be experiencing or feeling; and do not judge or criticize their abuser.
• Do not pressure them to leave the abusive relationship. There are many reasons they may choose stay. It is possible their abuser has threatened to hurt them or their children if they try to leave. The abuser may control all of their finances and may have isolated the victim from friends and family, leaving them with very few resources of their own. The abuser may have promised to change, and the victim may still love them. It is never as simple as encouraging a victim to “just leave” but by all means, communicate to them that help does exist, and that people in their community care about them and their children and want them to be safe.
• Do not feel the need to be an expert. Do not try to provide counseling or advice, but do connect them to trained people who can help.

 

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text "START" to 88788

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